LAID OFF AND RECOVERING–NINE STEPS TO HASTEN THE PROCESS
Lay offs hurt every one. No one benefits from them, not even the companies forced to take such a drastic action. PR issues aside, the internal climate of any company who has laid off staff is not the most productive.
For the person laid off, the rage and confusion are part of the package. It is not unusual to be frozen with fear or resentment. Many people plunge into a temporary depression. Feelings of powerlessness over one’s life are inevitable. And while these are neither unusual nor unexpected reactions, they must be overcome in order to proceed with the search for a new job.
What can you do to scale the hurdle of the potentially debilitating affects of a lay off? Take Action. Get control back in your life. Control what you can and acknowledge that control and every minor success that brings.
- Gather all your job search essentials in one place and make it “Job Search Central.” Go to “work” each day with a clear focus on your objectives.
- Create a to-do list each night before retiring. Make it manageable with achievable items. Make four phone calls and three emails to former employees is doable. Get six leads to jobs is not. That may be the outcome, but it is what you do to get those leads that belongs on the list.
- Your new job is looking for a job. When your children or relatives say you are unemployed, make it clear your employment is intense and purposeful. Mention a goal achieved such as your research on prospective employers and who you might contact.
- Suit up. Don’t give in to the temptation of lounging around in sweats and flip flops. Put on decent attire and you will be more professional in your search activities even if they are conducted from the privacy of your own home.
- Don’t complain. Remind yourself of your significant accomplishments. Make your elevator pitch your mantra and use it to drown out the negative voices.
- Don’t let others complain. When those around you want to discuss all the horrible layoffs, the poor job market or their other friends who have been out of work for six months, respond with comments about what you achieved. For example: “I connected with four people who have referred me to people who can help me.”
- Be good to yourself. This is no time to engage in self punishment. Drink that favorite tea, soak in a foamy tub or take a hike in your favorite place.
- Set some time aside each day for your favorite computer game, or call a friend and tell a joke. Do something completely different.
- Create a job search budget. Include your new suit and all those coffee dates. If you chose to work with a well chosen professional your time for reemployment will be shorter than if you didn’t, so don’t be too frugal when making your budget. If you know what you have allotted it is easier to relax when you spend a few bucks to have the car washed.
At the end of each day, before you create your to-do list, brag. Call someone up, talk to your partner, brag. Talk about completing your to-do list or getting through to a difficult to connect with executive. Mention the best answer you gave during an interview. Keep a journal each day of all your accomplishments and brag about them before you retire. You will find it much easier to get up in the morning to start over again.









